Why Women Are Moody ?

In a new book, psychiatrist Julie Holland argues we’re underappreciating and overmedicating women’s natural emotions.

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“We feel more deeply, express our emotions more frequently and get moody monthly.”

Women and tears get a bad rap. The same goes for women and anger, women and assertiveness, women and anxiety – the list goes on.

Call women crazy, but a more accurate descriptor might simply be “not men,” suggests Julie Holland, a psychiatrist and author of the new book released this week​, “Moody Bitches: The Truth About the Drugs You’re Taking, the Sleep You’re Missing, the Sex You’re Not Having, and What’s Really Making You Crazy.”

“We feel more deeply, express our emotions more frequently and get moody monthly,” Holland writes. “It’s normal.”

Not only is it normal, it’s a strength.

“Moodiness isn’t a weakness, it isn’t pathology to be stuffed down,” the 49-year-old from New York told U.S. News in an interview. “And the truth is, when you try to stuff down and not feel, you end up sicker.”

Anyone who’s tried not to cry or been told to calm down – only to get weepier or angrier – knows this. “You have to feel your feelings and experience them in order to integrate them and move on,” Holland says. “If you push it down, you get stuck.”

Holland talked to U.S. News about why women are moody, why that’s a good thing – and what women can do to manage their swings​ more naturally. Her responses have been edited.

Are women really more moody than men? 

Women’s and men’s brains are different. The truth is, women are wired to be more verbal and to talk more, to talk about feelings more, to feel feelings more deeply, to express more deeply, to notice feelings in other people – that’s the biology.

This is really one of our biggest assets. Our emotionality is potentially a source of power for us. It’s something that helps to keep us safe and keep our children safe.

What about environmental influences?

We’re totally not sleeping enough. Televisions at night, computer laptops at night, smartphones at night – all of that light is not only interfering with our sleep, but it’s screwing up our metabolism and making us fat.

The problem with less sleep is you have less control over your emotions, too. The frontal lobe sort of inhibits emotional sensors by saying, “Calm down.” When you’re sleep deprived, that whole mechanism does not work very well. This is another potential reason why you’re moody.

How did moodiness come to be viewed as a bad thing?

I do lay some of the responsibility at the feet of Big Pharma. If you look at ads for antidepressants, for anti-anxiety meds, even for anti-psychotics, they have targeted women for decades. Women who are feeling things too deeply and, honestly, women who bother their doctors too much. There are ads from Valium in doctor’s magazines from the 60s that say things like, “For your patient who calls you all the time, try Valium.”

​Big Pharma’s targeted women for a long time, and I think that’s just sort of our culture. Women aren’t encouraged to say what they feel, they’re not necessarily encouraged to express dissatisfaction or the fact that they’re angry. And that’s​ been going on for centuries.

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( Source : health.usnews.com )

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